Adera's Story: Following Her Light

Photo courtesy Adera Angelucci

Photo courtesy Adera Angelucci

Adera Angelucci is a TV host, director and producer, and a spiritual teacher/student and coach to women looking to find their inner light and own it.

I was always a curious and playful human. When I was little, I would dance, dress up and lip-sync to my favourite tunes. I loved to perform for whoever was interested in watching. I loved to act in school and was part of many plays. My first dream was to be an actor in Hollywood, playing characters.

Once I reached my late teens, however, I realized that I didn't want to stand out by pretending to be someone else. I wanted to stand out being myself. The way to do that, I thought, was to be a journalist or interviewer and have my own TV show.

So, when I was in my 20s, I joined an improv troupe, learned stand-up comedy, went to clowning school and got an agent to help get me in commercials or anything I could potentially do to perform. My goal was to avoid a 9-to-5 job. I knew my passion and purpose would be squashed in that box.

I was restless. I had 65 jobs before turning 30, everything from waitress, to bindery, to deli counter, retail, door-to-door, preschool and after-school care, summer camp guide, stilt walker, emcee, hostess, travel agent, promotions coordinator and in marketing and sales. You can’t say I didn’t try!

It was a long road, but I finally worked as on-air talent, producer and director, which led to me landing my dream job: my very own TV show. Now, it may seem like a crazy amount of things to do to get to my goal. I could have just gone to broadcasting school or took a straight and narrow path, but that would've dimmed my light. I knew I needed to take the unconventional, wild and winding path.

I learned that no matter what, I will find my way because I follow my light. Every time I tried something new, there was something aching in my heart telling me this wasn’t for me, and that kept me going. I knew that I was meant to do something else, but I had no clue really what it would be or how it would manifest. I didn’t want the kind of life that I’d have if I settled. I knew my heart wouldn’t feel settled unless I followed by light. So I kept on.

Life trains us to take the straight and narrow path. I’ve discovered my job is to un-train my clients so they can follow their light down their own paths and carve out their own careers doing what they are most passionate about. My light felt to me to be the only thing that was real. If I didn’t follow it, I would never know what it felt like to be truly self-expressed. I would be living a life that wasn’t true to who I am, and I really can’t see a point in that.

Curiosity fuels my passion. I spent my life learning how and why people did what they did. The paramount piece of knowledge I earned was that there is no one way to do something and there is no wrong way, as long as you follow your light.

I have been my own boss for seven years, and have built a beautiful life with my husband and our dog. Through my video storytelling company, I have told over a thousand stories of good people doing good work in the world.

The hardest thing I had to face was by far disapproval. Disapproval from some members of my family and friends who cared about me, who were worried that I would never find my feet or settle down. They worried that I was all over the place, and they would worry about my future and the choices I was making. Well, I didn’t always make the “right” choice, that’s for sure, but I was smart enough to eventually learn from my mistakes.

In the present moment I have no regrets. I love every bit of me. I love everything I did to get me to where I am today and I love my life now. I am constantly tweaking it so that my work and my relationships feel more aligned to my values. I push myself every day to try or be something new. I don’t settle! The people who stuck around through my journey now look up to me, and have come around to seeing that in fact it’s me that’s living the good life. That’s humbling to hear.

Photo courtesy Adera Angelucci

Photo courtesy Adera Angelucci

Now I am on another new journey, not out of restlessness, but out of gratitude. I am grateful to be in a place where I can explore what else is possible and how I can best serve in this new phase of my life. After much soul-searching and trusting in my light, I have found the answer: I am meant to serve women leaders, to help them ignite their light so that they can share it with the world and inspire other women to do the same.

There is a shift happening right now. You and I are a part of it. Our light as women is being called to serve, to create change and to lead. The world needs our voices, our power and our light. There is a rise in women leaders standing up and making themselves heard. This shift has a lot to do with women being fed up with having their light dimmed and finding the courage to say, "Enough is enough and it is time for a change."

The advice I got in my early 20s by one very significant person in my life at the time (which I now tell a lot of 20-somethings) is: GO BE YOU!

Go experiment. Go adventure. Go do that thing that your heart is calling you to do.

There won’t be a better time. It’s the one time in your life where you are truly FREE to explore the world with eyes wide open. Before kids, marriage or mortgages. You have nothing to lose but to set your heart ablaze and see where the wind takes you.

The knowledge you gain by following your heart is astounding. It’s the best school there is, in my mind. I wish someone had told me back in my 20s that exploring was the right choice, a perfect choice, for me. I feel like not enough people say that, so I am.

Learn more about Adera and her work at: www.aderaangelucci.com